
It ought to be remembered that there is nothing more difficult to take in hand, more perilous to conduct, or more uncertain in its success, than to take the lead in the introduction of a new order of things. Because the innovator has for enemies all those who have done well under the old conditions, and lukewarm defenders in those who may do well under the new. This coolness arises partly from fear of the opponents, who have the laws on their side, and partly from the incredulity of men, who do not readily believe in new things until they have had a long experience of them.
Niccolo Machievelli, The Prince
The first experience of institutional push back on change is always discovered by accident. You are young and naive. You see a better way to do things. You start to push for the most obvious change to make the world better. Instead of thanks you receive a fierce response from simple rejection to harsh criticism. You have upset the order of things and punishment follows, not thanks.
Welcome to the work of the change agent. You have just discovered Machievelli’s insight – there are always forces invested in doing things the way they are done today. Some of those forces are powerful enough to hurt you.
Don’t expect thanks for making the world a better place. You will be lucky to win any support even though your change obviously makes things better. To succeed you need to convince those who benefit from the current way to change, especially the powerful ones. That process is not easy and it is not smooth. Few people thank you for showing them there is a better way or for taking away their privileges in the current order of things.
I neither know nor care at length
Where drives the storm about;
Only I summon all my strength
And swear to ride it out.
Robert Nichols, Thanksgiving
Remember as you make change that even the people better off are inconvenienced. They have to break habits. They have to learn new skills and may feel less competent for a time. Power dynamics changing can be socially and psychologically uncomfortable for people. Even though they end up better off, even this group may not thank you for the inconvenience of the experience.
Even if you succeed, you will not be thanked. At best decades later when you change has become its own institution a few of your loyal supporters and advocates might acknowledge the role you played and the pain that you suffered. Even then it’s unlikely you will be thanked as successes ‘have many fathers’. Everyone will claim the change was their idea or their work. Such is the nature of success.
Success has many fathers. Defeat is an orphan
Count Galeazzo Ciano
Thank those who inspire you. Thank those who help you. Thank those how believe in you and encourage you. Thank those who make change on your behalf profusely. You know what they are going through. Don’t expect thanks.
Of all the rewards of change after the hard bit is done, thanks is not one of them.
in the faces of the officials and the rich
and of all who will never change
we go on saying thank you thank you
WS Merwin, Thanks







